spousal abuse | this is not a dress rehearsal

Life is not a dress rehearsal, period.

 How many times have you said to yourself

 when the time is right

 I will start to live my life to the fullest extent possible.

I know from experience that trying to life your life to please someone else can have some fatal consequences.
 If you have been living in a similar situation then it is time to take stock of where  you are in your life, relationship, and career. 


If it needs be changed in some way, shape, or form, then assess your current situation and make a plan to move ahead and start living the life you deserve. Are there a million factors to consider here, you bet there are. We all should be living, laughing, and loving on a regular basis.


 As most of us are living busy lives and schedules we often start chasing our tails around looking for the wrong thing. What is right and what is wrong? It is different for all of us so there is no right answer that suits everyone. 


I do know one area of our lives that can suck the energy out of all most anybody. Dealing with negative attitudes and negative emotions on a constant basis can rip a persons heart and soul right to the core, and it hurts deep inside our being.This may be a result of spousal abuse. If you are constantly being bombarded with negative expressions, personal put downs and angry people you can easily become demoralized and feel that you are the one who needs to change to their standards.

 Nothing could be further from the truth. 

Some of the more common negative emotions are :

• anger
• rage
• jealousy
• resentment
• greed

If you experience these types of emotions on a regular basis then it is time to change something. If the people you choose to associate with display these types of behaviors then open your eyes and smell the roses, there is a better way to live. Spousal abuse is wrong regardless if it is women being abused or men being abused.

 People who choose to display positive emotions are certainly happier and have a different outlook on living.

Our daily routines should include laughing and loving, caring and sharing, joy and happiness. If your day does not include these types of positive emotions then you and you alone are responsible to make it happen. Don't wait for someone else to make it happen for you. An abusive spouse will not want you to be happy and see you enjoying yourself.

 Start by loving yourself first.

 That is not being selfish, that is being true to you as a person. If you love yourself first you are able to share your love and joy for living with others that you come in contact with throughout the day.

 There is an interesting law of attraction that simply states:  

What you give to others you will get back in return.

 If you give off negative vibrations that is what you will get back and if you give out positive emotions then you will get that back too. You get back whatever you give out. It is your choice on which route you wish to take. If you are struggling with day to day issues then look in the mirror and change what is not right in your life. Nobody said it was easy but there is a better way to live.